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Elaine Rae McKissick, 79 yrs, of Dillsburg,PA, passed away at her home surrounded by loving family on Thursday, January11, 2024 after battling breast cancer with amazing courage and strength for the last year and a half.
Elaine was born on October 10, 1944 in Columbia, SC, to Monroe and Dorothy (Wert) Stroup.She is survived by her husband, John McKissick with whom she shared 34 years of marriage, her daughters Heather, Tania, and Meghan Cole; stepchildren Deb (McKissick) Hogan (Rod Hogan) and JohnMcKissick 11 (Carol Bazar); 5 grandchildren;4 great grandchildren;5 nieces and many loving friends. She is predeceased by her parents, her brother Dave Stroup, and sisters Doreen Andrews and Gayle Stroup, and her son Troy Cole.
Her last job was working as the administrative asst. to the Dean at Central Penn Business School. She loved working with the young students attending the school. She made a positive impact on many of them in their future career choices. When she retired she and John became snow birds in Cocoa Beach and spent 22 winters living the beach life where the friends there soon became family. She loved the sound of the ocean and spent hours on the balcony listening to the hypnotic calmness it offered her.
Elaine loved life and her fun exuberance for living it to the fullest was contagious. She was the fun one and easily drew friends to her. She was the matriarch in her family and the "glue" that kept everyone together by hosting and planning reunions, gatherings celebrations, and the famous deck parties at their beautiful farmhouse in Dillsburg as well as many Cocoa Beach gatherings. Wherever she was we would follow her.
She had a quick wit and easy sense of humor that always helped her get through hardships, including battling cancer for the last year and a half of her life. She faced obstacles with unrelenting courage, strength, grace, and always managed to find some humor.
She loved her flowers and her gardens were admired by many. They were her passion. She also loved word games. She was known as “the Scrabble Queen” and always rounded up a group to play charades. She could get even the shyest person in the room to feel comfortable to play. She also loved riding her bike, walking, bowling and was quite athletic and competitive. She loved dancing and could get the whole room feeling the beat with her amazing energy. She taught many people how to dance her favorite dance “The Electric Slide”. And she had no qualms about requesting We Are Family multiple times at weddings and other celebrations from the D.j.
"Lainey" was one of the most giving, thoughtful, positive, joyous, and selfless people you could ever meet and you felt very special if you made it into her "tribe". She was so loved and revered by her family and friends and often was the "go to" person for them. She was the best listener and probably had many secrets told to her that she took to the grave. You could trust her with anything.
Elaine aka " Lainer's, Lainey" will be missed beyond words and there will forever be an emptiness in the hearts of all who loved her. If you feel sadness or sorrow about her loss just put on your favorite music and dance. That would make her smile in heaven.
A Service will be held at Monaghan Presbyterian Church at 1185 Gettysburg Pike, Dillsburg, PA on January 20th. There will be visitation from 12:00-1:00 followed by a 1:00 p.m. memorial service and a fellowship and sharing reception afterwards.
In lieu of flowers the family suggests donating to the following:
Pink Hands of Hope (local cancer support organization) in Camphill, PA.
Riverside Presbyterian Church in Cocoa Beach, FL.
Monaghan Presbytarian Church in Dillsburg, Pa.